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The human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) is most commonly spread through unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse with an infected person.
Describing a couple as ‘serodiscordant’ means that one partner is HIV positive and the other is not. This can raise a number of issues, such as how to have sex safely. Finding out more about what is safe, talking to others with experience or talking with a counsellor may be helpful.
This article offers general information, but also talk with your doctor or AIDS organization.
Safe sex suggestions
HIV is transmitted by body fluids including blood, ejaculate (cum), pre-ejaculate (pre-cum), female genital fluids (both vaginal and cervical fluid) and breast milk. The way the virus gains entry to another person may be directly across the mucosa (the lining of the vagina or bowel) or into the bloodstream. HIV can also pass from mother to baby during pregnancy or birth, or via breast milk. It is important to prevent the transfer of these body fluids, whether the woman or her partner is HIV positive. Be guided by your doctor or health worker, but safe sex
- Kissing, cuddling, masturbation, mutual masturbation, massage, and ejaculating or urinating on unbroken skin are considered safe activities.
- Always wear a condom and use a water based lubricant when having vaginal or anal sex.
- The woman may prefer to wear a female condom that is inserted into the vagina.
- Pre-ejaculate (pre-cum) of an HIV positive man may transmit the virus, so don’t rely on the withdrawal method.
- Oral sex with either a man or woman is considered a ‘low risk’ activity for transmission of HIV.
- However the risk increases when people have cuts or sores in their mouth or on their lips, or have recently brushed their teeth and gums or flossed their teeth.
- For extra safety, people may choose to use a condom during oral sex performed on the man, or a dental dam or similar protection (such as clear plastic cling wrap – but not the ‘microwave safe’ variety which as tiny holes in it) during oral sex performed on the woman.
- Avoid penetration of the vagina or anus with finger or fist if there are abrasions on the hand or arm – to be sure, wear a latex glove and use lots of water based lubricant.
- Don’t share penetrative sex toys such as dildos – consider having a separate collection for each partner, covering them with a new condom each time they are used, or washing them thoroughly in warm soapy water between partners.
Lesbian serodiscordant couples should also follow these safer sex suggestions.
- Negotiating safe sex Practising safe sex is important even if you don’t know whether your partner is HIV positive or not. It protects you from HIV as well as other sexually transmissible infections.
- HIV is more easily transmitted when a person has another sexually transmissible infection.
- Telling sexual partners about HIV is a complex issue. Deciding when and how to tell will vary according to the relationship, the situation and the people involved.
- In Australia, you don’t have to tell your sexual partners about your HIV status. However, if you are a person living with HIV, you do have a responsibility not to transmit the virus.
- In Victoria, it is an offence to knowingly or recklessly infect another person with an infectious disease.
- NSW has specific legislation that requires that people disclose their HIV status before having sex.
- Any person who recklessly endangers or inflicts harm on another person may be charged under criminal law in all states and territories. Some tips to consider Negotiating safe sex is not always easy.
- Have condoms handy if you think there is a possibility that you will be having sex.
- Don’t assume that safe sex is the man’s responsibility. Women can carry condoms too.
- Don’t assume that a man will feel confident about using condoms. Learn about how they are used correctly so you can help. This can be fun.
- Make it your business to find out about condoms. Investigate colours and flavours.
- Find out where you can get condoms without embarrassment.
- Try to negotiate safe sex before you get into the ‘heat of the moment’. This is usually not the best time for debate and discussion. Some things you could say Think up some statements that you feel comfortable using,
- Where’s the condom?’
- Let’s have safe sex to protect both of us.
- I can roll the condom onto you with my mouth.’ Make sure you can.
- To make sure I don’t get pregnant, I like to use condoms.’ What to do if you are
exposed to body fluids If you are exposed to body fluids, you should wash the skin or area thoroughly with soap and water.
- Don’t use a douche in the vagina or rectum as this can irritate the area and increase the risk of HIV transmission.
Post exposure prophylaxis (PEP) is a month-long course of medication for people who have been exposed to the HIV virus. To be most effective, it should be started within 72 hours of exposure. It is best to start as early as possible after exposure. These drugs can be toxic on the body with unpleasant side effects such as vomiting, nausea and lethargy. PEP is not an alternative to safe sex. If you think you have been exposed to HIV or think you need help, call 97869-1830( or mail us to email@example.com for proper guidance and counselling). This is a telephone service. Clothes, bedding or other material can be washed in water and detergent or dry-cleaned. Don’t share toothbrushes or razors . Everyday household contact doesn’t transmit the HIV virus, but the intimacy of a sexual relationship means that lovers tend to share personal items, which can be a risk. A serodiscordant couple should avoid sharing toothbrushes, razors or any other personal item (including injecting equipment) that could have come in contact with blood. Long term relationships for serodiscordant couples Practising safe sex in long term relationships is a challenge.
The term safe sex seems to conjure up thoughts of condoms and not much else. It is normal for people who are in a serodiscordant relationship to become frustrated and angry about these limitations on their sexual expression. You might even think that it’s not really worth it. Being honest with your partner about your feelings and talking about every intimate detail will help to get you through. In any relationship, communication is the key. For the positive person in the relationship, issues can be different to those of the negative person. They have to live with the knowledge that they can infect their partner with HIV. Could they live with the guilt? What would everyone think of them? Would their partner still want them? Sometimes these fears may need to be addressed by a professional counsellor. It is helpful to remember these fears are occurring because the partner cares. The negative person may have fears associated with getting HIV, or of family or friends finding out about their partner and what their reaction might be. Try to have fun Keeping the spontaneity in your relationship alive is probably the hardest part to work at.
To help, you could:
Keep a condom handy in your pocket.
- Make your sex life as intimate and loving as you possibly can.
- Remember that intimacy is not all about sex.
- Don’t forget to have fun – for example, massage can be a wonderful avenue for both of you to explore.
- Your partner might hate wearing condoms. This can be difficult to overcome and only
patience and honesty will get you through.
- Learn to put on your partner’s condom and make light of any awkward situation. Don’t take yourselves too seriously.
- It is important to remember that one night of passion can lead to a lifetime of HIV. Talking to other people living with HIV about these issues may be helpful. Straight Arrows and Positive Women are community support organisations that have peer support workers.
Things to remember
The HIV virus is transmitted by body fluids including blood, ejaculate (cum), pre-ejaculate (pre-cum), vaginal and cervical fluids, and breast milk.
It is important to prevent the transfer of the HIV virus in these body fluids whether the woman or her partner is HIV positive.
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